I have had to lean on my faith a lot in my lifetime and it’s no secret that I am a huge fan of Jesus. Through all of my heart wrenching & life altering experiences, God has been there for me. People often ask me how to find this faith. So, whether you’ve never been spiritual before or you’re just wanting to fine tune your relationship with God, I’m going to share five things that can help you.

1: Have a Desire
First and foremost, you have to desire a relationship with God. And, if you’re reading this, chances are you’re already there. After all, if you’re going to plant a garden, you have to have fertile ground. The desire to believe in a higher power is the fertile ground you need for your spiritual relationship to grow.
2: Plant the Seed
How are you going to do this? Experiment. You can do this by praying or by reaching out to mentors or those that have a strong relationship with God – those people that you can look to for advice. And if those options seem too personal for you right now, read. Read books about Jesus – whether it’s the Bible or whatever book your religion follows, plant the seeds of your relationship by learning about it through experimenting.
3: Have an Open Heart & an Open Mind
Even growing up in a religious household, it took my husband’s diagnosis with cancer before I truly had a relationship with God. So, if the fact that you’ve never been spiritual at all is what is holding you back, don’t let it! It took life getting really hard for me to become spiritual, but I did so by putting God to the test and experimenting. I
had an open heart and mind.
On this step, it helps to journal – how do you feel when you read? How do you feel when you pray or talk with mentors? Notice how you feel and write it down.
Even now, I often pray for God to give me the eyes to see and ears to hear Him. When life gets busy and hard, it’s hard to notice God because the Darkness wants you to forget that there is any help from above or that there’s any chance of getting that comfort and peace when life is so tumultuous. So, I pray for the eyes to see and the ears to hear, and it has helped strengthen my belief and my trust in Him. This step is like covering the seed you planted with dirt.
4: Be Consistent
At this point, we’ve planted the seed and covered it with dirt. But, you can’t just walk away and see what happens. In order for your seed to grow, you have to fertilize it or that plant will die. In the same way, we need to nourish & take care of that belief that we have, because if we want it to grow, we have to be consistent.
We have to put in the effort. Anything in life that is worth doing takes effort. And let me tell you, sometimes it’s easier to take the cynical route and give up and lose all belief. To be faithful and to believe takes work and energy. When you put in the work, that relationship will grow and flourish.
5: Be Patient
When you put in the effort & are patient, you will have eyes to see and ears to hear God in your life. Your relationship with that spiritual being will only become more visible, apparent, tangible. As you are going through hard times, you will be able to find comfort, peace and a knowledge that God is there for you.
I recently heard faith explained like a lamp. You accidentally unplug a lamp, and then you blame it for not giving you any light. Is it the lamp’s fault or is it your error for unplugging it? That’s a no brainer, right? That is what a relationship with God is like. If you’re not plugged in, putting energy and effort into it, you’re not going to get the light
out. So plug in and work on these five steps. Don’t blame the light.
In Matthew 17:20, God says that if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, nothing will be impossible for you. Mustard seeds are itty-bitty, but that amount of faith is enough.
So, if you haven’t been spiritual and you’re thinking, “I think there’s more to this,” there is because you have that innate desire to want to go home, to want to converse with that great, amazing God and our savior, Jesus Christ. We are meant to have more to this life than forging it ourselves. This life is not the end. We have a reason to want to return to God, it’s divine because we are divine.
Remember: You don’t plant flower seeds then walk away and have flowers the next day. You have to be patient. Just like you have to be patient while your relationship with God grows. Why our relationship with God grows. This week it’s divine because we are divine. We are amazing. We have worth and God is there for you. Even if you don’t feel them, see him, hear him.
If you have any questions, reach out to me – I would love to hear your thoughts and feedback on how you find God in your life.